In marriage, feedback is constant — about habits, tone, money, sex, health.
Someone who defends or attacks is not yet ready.
Someone who listens, pauses, and responds = emotionally grounded.
What does emotional intimacy mean to you?
This uncovers:
Their understanding of connection
Their comfort with vulnerability
Whether they want emotional closeness or just companionship.
Have you ever been in therapy or seen a counsellor?
If yes — great. It means they value mental health. If not — do they respect therapy, or do they shame it?
💡 In 2025 India, normalizing therapy is a green flag in relationships.
How do you comfort someone when they’re not okay?
You’re going to need this during:
Pregnancy
Deaths
Job loss
Infertility
Burnout
Fights with parents
Their answer will show whether they’re emotionally available or emotionally unavailable.
What does a healthy marriage look like to you?
This is your blueprint alignment question.
Listen for words like:
Communication
Growth
Teamwork
Space
Respect
If they say “compromise,” “sacrifice,” “obedience,” or “duty” — be cautious. That’s old-school suppression, not modern connection.